Many you will have known since school or university and been heartily sick of them for years. If I'm sad, he climbs on me and smothers me with his face until I stop crying. I was briefly married in my early 20s and figured it would just happen eventually, but then the marriage ended before it even became a topic of conversation. Even then, you often need to attend at least one counseling session before they will close off your sperm highway. Folks are generally pretty understanding.
I'm 39 and always thought in the back of my mind I might have kids someday, but now I'm ambivalent about it. I am 22 and I know that I'm not going to create any life on this pointless earth. I just find it funny that a lot of people think you hate life, even though it's clear you just enjoy other things besides personal child rearing. We are not here just to have fun, neither to be only For ourselves. I believe life is a very, very serious matter since it is why we are all here Obviously.
And I don't want children. It makes you aware of other children, for one. But if hope and love are to be spread we need people who are full of it to spread it. Those punks are my children and I'd be horribly sad without them. However, folks who take this risk and end up with the opposite outcome — they took a chance on having kids because their partner was desperate to be a parent, and they ended up hating it — are also out there; they're probably just not bringing it up over brunch. This isn't to say regret is never a positive motivator. Humans are complex things, and they will pass for difficult moments where tears will drop.
Maybe the results would be different. And love is both a selfish and generous thing. I wanted the permanent love and to add joy to my family. But believe me, I multiplied my laugh rate 10 times more than when I was childless. So you begin to care so much more about what happens in the world. That you will never have grandchildren. Am I not a burden? And if, eventually, you change your mind.
A wave of contentment and joy washed over her. Am I happy I didn't have children? You could do all kinds of things with them, like meet someone new. There is a lot of pressure on couples to have children, and this has been ingrained in society since the very beginning of time. She kept guessing the reasons and when Googled, the very first result led her here. I say it is up to us who is already here to make a collective effort to making this world a better place.
I know there are a lot of parenting cynics out there. When people have children, whatever reasons they had for doing it are selfish, yes, but so are the reasons of those who prefer not to have children. My first language is Portuguese, so. All of the answers you're getting in this thread are great, albeit anecdotal, and from a retrospective point of view. Of finding a small hand in mine or a limp, trusting body completely content, asleep in my arms. If you want children, you should stop thinking about yourself and adopt some African or whatever kids that are already exists in this world but they're going to die in suffering. You make me think in such new and different ways, and I love that.
I searched reason for people having baby and got this article, I asked the same to few people and actually people have these reasons, like to carry the family name or when you get older there will be no one to take care etc etc. That is the conclusion of one academic study after the next — and there are so many that it makes one wonder if researchers kept trying, hoping for a different result. While one might assume that infertility only affects older women, some millennials to naturally conceive as well. Just seeing how she interacts with kids, her nephew in particular, has finally started to really bring me around on them. It's hard having an opinion so far against the grain of society and human nature. Maybe as a mother who has spent most of her life depressed and depressive I see happiness differently.
The cycle repeats itself generation after generation. He responds by puffing out his chest and showing off his nest-building skills. I get to watch everything you do, the talking and thinking and exploring and growing and know that I literally created you. It can be hard to accept that something so 'natural' makes you so unhappy. They get to travel with their spouses, come and go as they please, and have a lot less stress to deal with. These kinds of inquiries, which will be incessant, usually leave no room for thoughts of self-annihilation. Having children is not for everyone.